What have you learned about your own conflict style?
The quiz result said that I am the accommodating type and I was kind of surprised by the result because I am everything but not accommodating. because I am not the kind of person who let's the others decide and is the quiet person.
If I am not satisfied with something I am straight forward and tell my opposite what I think and how I feel. It is true that I sometimes value if it is worth to stand up to for or if I should let go of it because it is not worth fighting for but most often I defend my stand.
I am not saying that I am not open for the other side and their argument but it is just not my attitude to not speak out what is in my head.
I think it is part of because I am German but also because I like it better if people walk straight up on me and tell me if there is a problem. I don't like drama and I think if you do not stand up for yourself and don't talk about your needs there will be a point in which you can not take it any longer and that is what we call the "explosion point" in Germany. If that happens a person yells everything out and brings up things which are from the long past just because she did not agree on it before but she did not say anything because she was not willing to get into an argument and wanted to comfort the other. But at that point everything gets it out and the opposite has no choice to get out of the conflict without hurt feelings and that is where the drama starts. To avoid situations like that I prefer to say what is on my mind and I am willing to stand up for my opinion if I think it is worth it.
The quiz result said that I am the accommodating type and I was kind of surprised by the result because I am everything but not accommodating. because I am not the kind of person who let's the others decide and is the quiet person.
If I am not satisfied with something I am straight forward and tell my opposite what I think and how I feel. It is true that I sometimes value if it is worth to stand up to for or if I should let go of it because it is not worth fighting for but most often I defend my stand.
I am not saying that I am not open for the other side and their argument but it is just not my attitude to not speak out what is in my head.
I think it is part of because I am German but also because I like it better if people walk straight up on me and tell me if there is a problem. I don't like drama and I think if you do not stand up for yourself and don't talk about your needs there will be a point in which you can not take it any longer and that is what we call the "explosion point" in Germany. If that happens a person yells everything out and brings up things which are from the long past just because she did not agree on it before but she did not say anything because she was not willing to get into an argument and wanted to comfort the other. But at that point everything gets it out and the opposite has no choice to get out of the conflict without hurt feelings and that is where the drama starts. To avoid situations like that I prefer to say what is on my mind and I am willing to stand up for my opinion if I think it is worth it.
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