Think about how your own conflicts escalate. What factors contribute to escalation? How do you contribute to escalation? Do you hate it or is it ever fun?
I think that my conflicts escalate in a "specific to general" way, first of all. I'm definitely the type of person who will take the argument and turn it into an accusation about the feelings that were felt all along or really bizarre wacky things that really have nothing to do with the conflict at hand, but really all the things that I already think and am insecure about. I also feel like my conflicts shift in a "few to many" way. Lots of people tend to get involved, although usually I don't want them to. This usually makes the conflict even more stressful.
When it comes to the escalation I am two things: 1. I will try to stop it. 2. I will be the one crying about it. I do not like conflict. It brings out the emotional beast inside of me; I will turn into a crying blubbery hot mess. If it is a conflict between other parties, I will be the mediator trying to stop the conflict as quick and effectively as possible. If it is a conflict between someone else, I think I give in way too easily just so I can get rid of the conflict. So many times I have had my best friend tell me that I don't stand up for myself; that is because I'm trying to avoid a conflict. The escalation of a conflict is not fun for me because that is usually the most emotional part.
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