Sunday, October 3, 2010
Journal Six
The main pattern that I see in my conflict is a lack of communication, or the presence of bad communication. Either I or someone else assume that someone knows something that they should assume they would know, or someone understands something differently from how the person meant it to be understood. I see my conflicts fitting one of the more linear models of conflict because I don't feel like the solutions to my conflict often leads to more conflict. I think that when I solve a conflict with someone, we generally work through the whole thing and don't leave pieces or create a solution that causes more trouble. Sometimes however, especially in conflicts with my family, my conflicts take a more circular route. Sometimes there the solutions lead to more problems because we don't take the time to work through the whole thing and we get easily frustrated with each other more so than I do with friends and other relationships in my life.
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ReplyDeleteAnyway, when I think about my own conflicts I see a terrible cycle. Especially when I think about problems with my parents; although things have gotten much better between us, it used to be really bad. We would fight, and not resolve the conflict and another problem would come up, even if it was as insignificant as me eating a pop tart in my room. Eating the pop tart was not the problem, but my parents keep thinking that I was trying to anger them, so larger conflicts became the problem but we were mad at each other because we did not solve the big conflict. I would say that it's closest to Kriesberg's model.